I know I have been rather quiet and not writing. Its been a strange time for me and I guess I am not prepared to talk about whats happening in my head at the moment.
That however does not mean there aren’t a million things racing through my brain
And one thing that has been pissing me off lately is titles/salutations/labels
Mr vs Miss, Ms Mrs Madam
Why do men have 1 label and women have so many.
In Singapore women do not need to change their names once they are married, we do not need to add the Mrs, but what people do is change the salutation from Miss to madam… On all official documents we are addressed as MDM.
The men remain as Mr, whether married, divorced, widowded, single, just Mr. They have it for their whole life. While women are made to reflect on their status throughout their whole lives. We cease being Miss when we marry. We become Mrs so and so or Madam so and so. When we divorce, in Singapore because we don’t change our names to reflect our married names, we just retain the madam so and so. I like the MS, or mizz or whatever..
My daughter in law in Canada has a double barrel name now with her surname and my sons. Which I like. I am glad she kept her surname, it keeps her identity as hers and hers alone. My sons and I do not share a surname as I never took on their fathers name, and I feel disconnected from them in a way. I wish they had a double barrelled name too but then my daughter in laws would have a triple barrelled name.......
Now do you understand why I write this blog. My mind works at fever pitch all about nothing important and getting these nonsensical thoughts out, is a blessing.