I know I
have been rather quiet and not writing.
Its been a strange time for me and I guess I am not prepared to talk
about whats happening in my head at the moment.
That
however does not mean there aren’t a million things racing through my brain
And one
thing that has been pissing me off lately is titles/salutations/labels
Mr vs Miss,
Ms Mrs Madam
Why do men
have 1 label and women have so many.
In
Singapore women do not need to change their names once they are married, we do
not need to add the Mrs, but what people
do is change the salutation from Miss to madam… On all official documents we
are addressed as MDM.
The men
remain as Mr, whether married, divorced, widowded, single, just Mr. They have it for their whole life. While women are made to reflect on their
status throughout their whole lives. We
cease being Miss when we marry. We
become Mrs so and so or Madam so and so.
When we divorce, in Singapore because we don’t change our names to
reflect our married names, we just retain the madam so and so. I like the MS, or mizz or whatever..
My daughter
in law in Canada has a double barrel name now with her surname and my
sons. Which I like. I am glad she kept her surname, it keeps her
identity as hers and hers alone. My sons
and I do not share a surname as I never took on their fathers name, and I feel
disconnected from them in a way. I wish
they had a double barrelled name too but then my daughter in laws would have a
triple barrelled name.......
Now do you
understand why I write this blog. My mind works at fever pitch all about
nothing important and getting these nonsensical thoughts out, is a blessing.
